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Often how we interpret other people’s behavior, particularly in relation to us, says more about who we are (and how we see ourselves) than it does about the other person.
~concept from David Schnarch’s Passionate Marriage
From David Schnarch’s Passionate Marriage…
She detested how she hid in fear of [her husband, John's] disapproval and vowed to do things differently… she recognized that she’d never really feel “safe” if she couldn’t do it on her own.
Having made this momentous decision, Mary realized that she didn’t need “permission” to change herself or her marriage. It doesn’t “take two,” as the old saying goes. It takes two to keep your marriage the same; it only takes one to change it. When you change, the relationship changes.
She wanted to become sufficiently solid in her sense of herself that she would stop living in fear of John’s response.
Think about your hugging.
How do you hug? Are you close or keep space between?
How relaxed are you when you hug?
How long do you hug?
How are these things different with different people you hug?
What do you think your hugging says about how you do the rest of life?
What do you think your hugging says about your relationship with the people you hug?
This concept of using hugging as a litmus test comes from David Schnarch’s Passionate Marriage. I want to add a quote about a concept he calls “hugging till relaxed.”
Start experimenting with hugging till relaxed in private, where you won’t be distracted. But when you get good at it, do it in your living room and kitchen so your kids can see and feel it. Modeling intimacy and interest in physical contact is only one benefit. You can also change the atmosphere in your home. Since families with young kids are an inherently undifferentiated emotional network, being near parents in a soothing, intimate interaction has the impact of calming children.
~David Schnarch, Ph.D
My nephew schnuggled me today.
…. got to have parents like mine.
So they always know they’re
If you recall >> this post <<, I’m sure someone wondered why that day was so good. And in case you haven’t picked up on it since then, I’ll tell ya the reason….
It has to do with a boy.
A boy that I *really* like.
I would go so far as to say I love him.
I’m going to be an AUNT!!!!
I am completely enamored with a blue-eyed boy!!!
Hair: Dark Blond
Weight: 15 lbs.