Rules in Relationships
This info is from my Marriage & Family Therapy class…
Two questions get answered in relationships in regard to rules:
1) What are going to be the rules of the relationship? Like, how much time will be spent together, what topics of coversation are cosher, how will conflict be resolved, etc.
2) More importantly than the first – Who is going to set the rules?
In higher functioning relationships the rules will be set in a direct way – mutually, talking about it with mutual respect and compromise, without the need to save face or be “one-up” all the time – rather than leaving things unspoken, to develop unwritten rules.