So, I am (as you may have noticed from earlier/recent posts) reading a book of which a main topic is differentiation.
I just read the following bit and subsequently feel like celebrating. Consider that feeling an ode to my parents!
“… two important principles every married person should know: First, we emerge from our family of origin at about the highest level of differentiation our parents achieved.”
That is good news, because my parents are well differentiated! SWEET! I just may be well-differentiated by default!
I’ve kept thinking as I’m reading this book… I suck at this, I suck at that, I’m poorly differentiated, blah, blah, blah.
BUT… if that quote is right, then I’m on a good track! Thanks, Dad and Mom!!!!
And just as good… a quote following on the heels of the one I just posted…
“Second, we always pick a marital partner who’s at the same level of differentiation as we are.”