What’s Wrong With Me the Way I Am?
From David Schnarch’s Passionate Marriage…
What’s wrong with me the way I am?
You may not want to answer it because it means facing things about yourself you know need changing. Your response to the question unmasks your reluctance to become what you can be – just as it unmasks your reflection of who you are now.
Finally, the question itself highlights the unspoken assumption that if people love you, they’ll be satisfied living within your limitations.