Savoring a Compliment
Today I told my counselor (50-ish year old man with a Ph.D) that I don’t feel bad about myself when dating relationships don’t “work out,” because I think it works more like a puzzle. I used to think that relationships worked or not depending on how much effort you were willing to put into it. But now I don’t think that at all. Some people fit, some people don’t. It’s not a crisis, it’s just the way it is.
After I explained how I felt about all that, he said, “That’s a very mature way of looking at it. Way better than the way most people do.”
I said, “Yeah, thanks. I feel pretty good about it.” Then I kept jabbering (cause that’s what I do when I’m in his office – filter goes out the window).
But he stops me again, “No… I really mean that as a big compliment.”